"Meh" --> "Totally Miserable" 😬
The technical term for the experience of being in a good enough job, career, or relationship is .... "Meh."
I literally cannot think of a more accurate description.
And the most common tale of the path to "Meh" is:
I was initially curious
The newness sustained me
I really got the hang of it and people thought I was good at it.
I got pretty comfortable ($, time, control/ease, routine)
It started to get a little dull
I'm really not excited by it at all
It feels really hard to change
No burning platform here. Lots of inconvenience and unknowns ahead.
Change in the good enough land of "meh" is really hard.
Day dreams of clients in these situations sometimes include:
Severance packages
Lottery winnings
A toxic situation that could excuse you quitting
In other words, "if someone else would just kick me out of this nest, that would be great, thanks."
I get it. I've been there both in my work and in my marriage.
(I've also, spoiler alert, navigated from "Meh to "Amazing" in both cases but made a few detours to "Totally Miserable" along the way.)
My personal experience is that "meh" poses as a "good enough, not great" problem.
But in fact, it's an early warning sign that something that looks good to the outside world is not good enough for you.
In other words, ignoring it will likely lead to things gradually getting worse. And like the frog that chills out in a pot of water as it comes up to boiling, you will realize at some point that you are totally miserable.
(Are you already at totally miserable? I'm sorry, it sucks, I know. It will get better. I can help.)
Good news, is that if you treat "meh" as the early warning sign that it is you can also carve out a new path to amazing.
It will take courage and curiosity. Some days it might feel pretty radical and bad ass. You can probably even make it fun.
And you will be inspiring all those around you to march towards a life that is truly rewarding - inside and out.
If you are feeling a little "meh" and curious about what might be next, just reply to this email.
We can talk more about your situation. I'll suggest some ideas for poking around and exploring further.
To your present.
To your future.
To your journey.
Marijke Ocean