If you are facing any tough times - I have a little 3 step process to help you below.

And just to show you I only recommend "medicine" I'd take myself...

Here's a little slice of what's up in my neck of the woods and how I am using those 3 steps to find some peace.

When I first started working with a coach some years ago she asked me, "When you are 80, 85 years old sitting on your porch in a rocking chair - what memories, experiences, or accomplishments will be most important to you? What will really matter? "

Even now this question feels a bit hokey. But in the quiet, dedicated time of our session, I reflected on it carefully and answered as honestly as I could.

You might take a minute to do the same.

Imagine yourself on a low stakes walk around your neighborhood.

One third of the way through, a section of sidewalk is dug up for repair.

You have to walk around.

• Do you consider quitting the walk altogether?

• Is the universe sending you a sign that you shouldn't be on this walk?

• Do you feel disrespected or betrayed by your neighbors for this inconvenience...and plan your revenge?

My guess is that - unless you've already had a real $hi!!y day - you calmly walk around the construction and keep on truckin'.

What's your attitude toward the beginning of the new year right now? It may give you some insight about the habitual way you treat beginnings in general.

At the risk of sounding creepy, I can feel you rushing ahead right now.

Ok, maybe it's not you personally.

Maybe it's just the vibe out there.

Maybe it's the vibe in here.

Do you remember the last time you felt terribly lost?

I find there is a similar feeling whether I recall a time I was lost on a hiking trail or the times I've been lost psychically - like when I was a learning to be a mom and struggling professionally.

In those moments I feel desperation mixed with obsessive alertness. (Charming.)

Are you longing to hustle less? Rest more? Create space?

I've been feeling it too. And I think it's a calling for our times. An inclination toward something more true than the cult of achievement via maximum productivity.

How are you and those around you different than 6 months ago? How have surroundings or circumstances changed? How have you been asked to grow?

So how do you remember to remember?

Think back to other times you’ve made a change.

I’m sure you have lots of good tricks for this that have actually worked for you.

Here are a few ideas I’ve already collected from friends & clients.

Today I feel a little bit tired.

I used to argue with myself on days like this.

"You must be productive!"

Some days, this is how it is.

Because I am a recovering compulsive do-er, I'm now a big proponent of slowing things down.

But lest my encouragement for you to slow your roll go too far, today I am offering a reminder about the costs of waiting.

I am sharing a few practical examples for both life and work. Along with an invitation: How can you shift to more feedback and eliminate criticism?