I’m fascinated by the way complex problems are sometimes solved easily – like when something just clicks into place and the path forward is obvious.

How do we make ourselves more prone to these moments of clarity?

One of the reasons change is so hard is that we become disoriented.

Changes big and small strand us in the wilderness without a trail or a map.

We sometimes get confused about this. We commit to change or transform...and then we find ourselves doing the opposite of what we said we would do.

What are we to make of this?

I'm fascinated by how much my life is improved - my clients lives are improved - by small adjustments in habits and behaviors. Doing these these things consistently has a significant impact on my health, productivity, happiness, and well-being.

We are all craving more creativity and flow.

I consider this a skillful craving. A longing for something wholesome and true.

And I am on a mission to help us all return to the place inside us that flows.

Science tells me it's true. Completing tasks activates the same short-term feel good dopamine circuitry that underpins other forms of addiction.

But, as I’ve mentioned before - all that doing is not necessary.

For the next meeting or conversation you have: What would you need to add or take away to make it 10x better?

What check-in would support you in moving toward that change?

Fear is like logic's kryptonite.

You may not recognize it as fear, per se.

It may not look or feel like terror. And objectively you may see no real danger.

But if common sense is absent, fear is present.

We are habit collecting machines.

At a young age we start to develop little patterns that help us feel safe, make sense of the world, be liked and accepted, get what we want, etc..

Not a problem. This is what it is to be human.

A lot of people tell me that constant fire drills are a huge problem. The reactivity, the time hijack, the stress...

If it's not fire drills ... then it's another source of drama. Our own or someone else's chaos. A relationship laden with conflict.

It’s estimated we make about 35,000 decisions a day. Laboring over these decisions is impossible so our brain creates shortcuts to help.

Among the shortcuts are a (mostly unconscious) set of priorities, aka values.

Are you craving more feedback?

We are often getting a lot of non-verbal feedback that's hard to decipher and requires us to make assumptions about what people think, feel, need, or want.